Robert (Baby Bob) Vesma

2006 - 2006

Location	Gloucester
Age	0
Cause of Death	Still Birth
Date of Birth	17/12/2006
Date of Death	17/12/2006
Visitors	3,476 since 12/01/2007
Creator	BabyBobs Mummy

Robert Vesma was born sleeping on the 17th of December 2006,weighing 5 pounds and 2 ounces. My beautiful Baby Bob spent only a few hours with us but they were precious moments. They are a wonderful and heartbreaking memory I will forever carry with me in my heart.

Bob was a very active little man. My husband Daniel would tap my tummy and Bob would kick back.He had a good strong kick and we all enjoyed him playing tag with his dad all over my belly. It is a memory I now cherish.

I enjoyed to do less active things with my son. I loved to read to him and sing, even though I was horribly out of tune and at times that got a good kick.

Bath time was special as his older brother, Corbu who at the time we lost Bob was 2 and a half, would balance little bath toys on my tummy. Then we would laugh as Bob kicked them off. Wonderful moments I spent with my sons, I will will always remember them.

Corbu at the time did not really understand what was happening but he knew that Bob was gone. As time has gone past he has no memory of Bob or what happened at all.We have made a memory box for Bob and put in all cards,photos and gifts given. When Corbu is older he can look through it as we do now. We will share with him, the love and memory of his little brother.

The funeral was the most heartbreaking and difficult thing I have ever done. My husband did not have the strength to really do anything, so I did it. My husband is not a man of faith so I respected that and did not have a religious service.

I did a small eulogy, I shared how how much I loved my son and would miss him greatly and read a poem (featured at the bottom) which I had always loved since I was a teenager. But now... now it has so much special meaning. My sister read two verses of scripture, for me and those who did have faith, even if it was just a little.

Then I had to leave my little boy, in that small little white coffin. Trying not to think of my precious little one being creamted, trying not to think that really is it, he is gone forever. I cried and cried, I still do.

I cried again when we collected his ashes. They were so few,such a little little amount of ash. It is so sad that my beautiful baby boy amounted to barely enough ash to fill a egg cup.

So sad.
So very sad.
It made me cry so hard.

We were suppose to scatter Bob's ashes on the hills over looking our home town. When we collected his ashes and had to actually do it, I just couldn't do it. So for now Bob is home with us. When the time is right and I will know when that is, we will go out as a family and at sunset.......

The memory of Bob is in my heart is bigger than any mountain, my love for him larger than any ocean. Yes, thats what I hold on to.

Bob was my constant companion for 34 weeks. Now that he is gone I miss him more than words can say.

I love you my darling son, always and forever

My son sadly taken but always remembered.

REMEMBER me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

During this dark and difficult time I have found Sands (Stillbirth and neonatal death charity) to be a huge help.

I thank everyone there and the lovely friends I have made for all the tears and joy they have shared with me. xxx

New TributeTributes to Robert

There have been 23 tributes left for Robert.

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I SAID, “GOD I HURT,”
AND GOD SAID, “I KNOW,
”
I SAID, “GOD I CRY A LOT”
AND GOD SAID, “THAT IS WHY I GAVE YOU TEARS,
”
I SAID,”GOD I AM SO DEPRESSED”
AND GOD SAID, “THAT’S WHY I GAVE YOU SUNSHINE,
”
I SAID “GOD LIFE IS SO HARD”
AND GOD SAID,”THAT’S WHY I GAVE YOU LOVED ONES,
”
I SAID,”GOD MY LOVED ONE DIED”
AND GOD SAID “SO DID MINE,
”
I SAID, “GOD IT IS SUCH A LOSS”
AND GOD SAID”I SAW MINE NAILED TO A CROSS,
”
I SAID,”BUT GOD, YOUR LOVED ONE LIVES,”
AND GOD SAID “SO DOES YOURS,”

I SAID “GOD WHERE ARE THEY NOW?”
AND GOD SAID “MINE IS ON THE RIGHT AND YOURS IS IN THE LIGHT,”

I SAID “GOD IT HURTS”
AND GOD SAID “I KNOW”

Carole Mummy of Christopher Archer
2 weeks ago

bonny lad

i hope you dont mind me looking at your beautifulful boy my heart bleads for you in your loss but keep brave you have him in your memories he will still bring you joy in your hearts. xx ann

Joanne Cornwell September 23, 2008, 1:11 am

little soldier xxx

SWEET DREAMS

Sweet dreams are all I have of you, they're all you left behind,
Those cherished, lovely memories, never again to find.
On earth you were so wonderful, no child could I compare
To all the love you gave to me, you were so meek, so rare.
Sweet dreams they keep me going through the long and lonely night,
How I wish that I could hug you here and squeeze you oh so tight.
If I could walk to Heaven dear, to see you every day,
Just know I'd never want to leave, I know I'd long to stay.
We parted here on earth my child, but God's will shall be done,
Then dreams will be reality for once more we'll be one.
I love you for eternity, forever and some more,
Because you were the sweetest child, the kindest and most pure.
If Heaven's full of Angels, like you were here on earth,
I thank the Lord for lending you, for giving me your birth,
One day my child I'll see you there, so please look out for me,
You'll see my smile so wide before you see my spirit free.
God takes the sweetest Angels first, this we know is true,
For He came here and looked around, my darling, He chose you!

Angel bobbys mummy Sarah xxx
September 17, 2008, 2:50 am

Precious Robert

They say there is a reason,
They say that time will heal,
But neither time nor reason,
Will change the way I feel,
For no-one knows the heartache,
That lies behind our smiles,
No-one knows how many times,
We have broken down and cried,
We want to tell you something,
So there won't be any doubt,
You're so wonderful to think of,
But so hard to be without.

Louisa Burnett
September 16, 2008, 8:00 am

My darling son, gone to soon xx

Like a comet blazing across the evening sky,
Gone too soon.
Like a rainbow fading in the twinkling of an eye,
Gone too soon.
Shiny and sparkly and splendidly bright...
Here one day, Gone one night.
Like the loss of sunshine on a cloudy afternoon,
Gone too soon.
Like a castle built on a sandy beach,
Gone too soon.
Like a perfect flower that is just beyond your reach,
Gone too soon.
Born to amuse, to inspire, to delight....
Here one day, Gone one night.
Like a sunset dying with the rising of the moon,
Gone too soon... Gone too soon.

BabyBobs Mummy (Mummy)
September 8, 2008, 2:39 pm

R.I.P BABY BOB!

My thoughts are with u and ur family!

What a sad & touching story which sounds very like my own!
I'm sorry for your loss!

I'm sure he is watching over u and ur family & I am sure he is never far away, just like my angel who we sadly lost on 17th August on daddy's birthday...

Cathy Sharp
August 31, 2008, 4:46 pm

hi i am very sorry to hear of the loss of your baby boy robert i too lost a lil girl who was born sleeping on the 16th of april 2007 at 39weeks and 4 days gestetion and i also live in gloucester if ever you feel like a chat just msg me and i will leave you my email addy take care all my love toni portias mummy x x x

Andre Your Dady October 7, 2007, 12:00 am

Goodnight baby Bob. I lost my son too he was only tiny at 22 weeks gestation. I hope you are all playing in the gardens with the angels.

Gooodnight precious, sleep well.

Amanda Beanland
May 3, 2007, 12:00 am

Thinking of you all and your gorgeous little boy.
I lost my little girl Rebecca on December 5th 2006.She was born at 34 weeks gestation but only lived for 16 hours and died from severe respiratory distress syndrome.
I hope our angels have met and are playing in Heaven together. God bless.xxxxx

Pauline Morrison April 22, 2007, 12:00 am

His Journey's Just Begun

His Journey’s Just Begun

Don't think of him as gone away,
his journey's just begun.
Life holds so many facets,
this earth is only one.

Just think of him as resting,
from the sorrows and the tears.
In a place of warmth and comfort,
where there are no days and years.

Think how he must be wishing,
that we could know today...
How nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.

And think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched...
For nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much!